What is a promise? It is a pledge or an assurance given by one person to other that he/she will act exactly as promised. The other person can rest assured that the promise will not be broken under any circumstances. In this case, circumstances word is very significant. Because even if the promise is made in total sincerity, the circumstances are taken as an excuse for breaking them.

At times, the cost of keeping the promise unbroken can be very high. But no matter what is that cost, the breaking of a promise is a bigger sin. By breaking a promise, we hurt the other party. We kill the faith of the other party in humanity and its words. One must think about the value of the promise for the one to whom it was made. Why do we promise something to someone? Because both the parties agree that if the promise is broken, the other person will be hurt. Why is the promise accepted? The promise is accepted only if one who makes the promise is believed to be a truthful and honest person. No one believes upon the promises made by liars.

Let us look at a scenario. Say, a wife makes a promise to her husband. The wife is going out for a long period and the husband is promised that whatever may be the temptation, or need, she will never indulge in any activity that hurts him. The husband takes his wife’s word as a gospel truth and feels very happy and proud about her. What if she breaks the promise at the first opportunity? What if she lies to him about that, after he gets a hint that she has broken the promise? And what if she defends herself about breaking the promise and lying by accusing the husband and asking him if he never lied or broke a promise? Imagine the hurt she will give to her husband with her action. If he is a simple and innocent person who believes that everyone in the world is like him? He will be devastated forever.

Even if the wife breaks the relationship after breaking the promises, so that she does not have to explain her conduct and feel sorry about that, she would have succeeded in breaking not only a promise, but devaluing a honest person in all the possible ways. I don’t know if you believe in hell, but if there is one, this wife will be sent to that hell forever. This example talks of a wife. This is equally true about husbands, and even amongst friends. A promise is sacrosanct. To break a promise given to a honest person, who has accepted that promise in all sincerity is like hitting a small kid repeatedly.

Why I use the repeatedly, because whenever the husband remembers about the broken promise, he will experience the same hurt again. He will be a changed person forever, and doomed to live a life of pain that overflows from his heart.

Some people are childlike and they still believe that the world is full of truthful and honest people. They have yet not realized that the reality is contrary. If one makes a promise to such a person and breaks it easily as if it never mattered, one may not be hauled before the court of law for killing a person’s spirit, but the crime is equal.

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Promises – Never Break Them In A Relationship by CDMohatta

Once considered the exclusive territory of adulterous men, computer nerds and psychos using false identities, internet dating has now lost it’s stigma. In Europe and the USA, It’s now the most popular method of finding a partner, with 65% of singletons between the ages of 25 and 50 turning to the net.

Gone are the sleazy chat-rooms, pseudonyms and fake photos, now online daters upload entire photo albums, write lengthy descriptions of themselves and detail their exact preferences – and are happy to admit that this is how they found their partners.

But this new found confidence in the medium has generated a plethora of new dating sites; so how do you decide which is the right one for you and how do you get the best out of your chosen site? Follow these few simple steps and I guarantee that you wont go wrong:-

1. Be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for. Do you just want to chat with other cyber folk or do you genuinely want to meet a new partner? If you just want a whole bunch of new pen-pals, there are many sites that aren’t particularly bothered about location so if, for example, you’re in Manchester, England, you can make new friends in Idaho or Madrid. But if you actually plan to meet anyone you make contact with, then choose a service that’s specific to either the country in which you live, or better still, the city or area.

2. Are you seeking a very specific type of partner? There are a great many niche sites out there so if you want to meet, say, other single parents or other motorbike enthusiasts, just type in ‘single parent dating’ or ‘biker dating’ into your preferred search engine and you’ll probably find that you’ll be presented with a choice of suitable dating services.

3. Are you willing to pay to join a dating site? Cyberspace is no different to the ‘real’ world in this respect – you get what you pay for! If the operators of a particular site aren’t confident enough in their offering to actually charge a membership fee, you have to ask yourself why. The average monthly subscription to a high calibre dating site is usually no more expensive than a round of drinks so surely it’s worth it if it means you might actually meet your perfect partner by signing up.

4. OK, you’ve found the dating service that you believe is just right for you. What now? Well, to get the best results from your chosen site, it’s up to you to get the most out of your membership by posting a bright, upbeat, confident profile and uploading a photo to accompany it. 95% of dating site users will only respond to people who have bothered to provide a photo of themselves; after all, you want to see what other members look like so it stands to reason that others will feel exactly the same way about you. And don’t be modest – if you think you’re pretty darn attractive, then now is exactly the right time to shout it from the roof tops!

And finally…and this is the most obvious piece of advice as well as being the most important…once you’ve signed up to an online dating site, don’t wait for others to get in contact, search through the list of members who fall within your chosen criteria and when you like the look and sound of someone, send them a message and introduce yourself. Chances are, if you’ve identified someone with whom you might have things in common and to whom you are attracted, then you can bet your bottom dollar that they’ll more than likely be delighted to hear from you.

So there you have it; if you’re single and sick of being so, find the right online dating site and kick start your love life today. Have fun and happy hunting!

How To Find The Online Dating Site That’s Right For You / Jon White

Jon White is the founder of http://www.CupidNights.com – a London only dating site and the most successful geo-targeted site in Europe.

As an individual raised with little opportunity to develop social skills, I had a particularly difficult time with the dating scene. I am happily married now, but during my years of dating, I felt that it would never happen. With the many years using online dating services, I have learned many useful ways of establishing positive initial interaction. In this article I will share with you ideas that will give you a little more ease with dating and coping with the anxiety on the first date.

First, there are a few questions we must address and bring out into the open. How much should we get to know the potential date before meeting? What discussion or prefacing is required with your potential date prior to the meeting? How does this potential date feel about you, or does this person also share in this anxiety? After the rendezvous is established where will you meet to insure safety, enjoyment and relaxation?

Lets dive into the first question: How much should we get to know the potential date before meeting? This question begs of the actual legitimacy of the potential date. Is this, person really genuine? What is this persons background? These questions are not as easy to answer, but we can start with the following. The method of communication is incredibly important. Phone communication although a little nerve racking, can break the ice and establish an initial understanding of who this person is. Try to avoid creating a mental image of this person as this can really increase expectations and also give the other person an unfair disadvantage (i.e. relating the voice to a physical mental image). The phone conversation can also shed light on this person’s general character.

This leads to what discussions or prefacing is required. It is important to acknowledge that this place we live is very diverse and the person’s character is one of the most important attributes of desirability. Be softly direct when inquiring about his or her background without invoking the feeling that you are drilling the person which is a real “turn-off”. I have used this idea many times which turn’s out to be a really enjoyable exercise. Write down a few background questions to ask prior to calling the potential date and go from there. The conversation can take on with its own energy from there and it will be very easy to get a good feeling for the person. That is to say, if the person is not forthright, it will most likely come through in the conversation.

In most cases, the other person will exhibit the same anxiety as you. Keep this in mind, as it will help your nerves a little. Being confident, honest, direct and respectful will help you and the date feel an increased level of comfort whether your on the phone, or on the first date.

On this first date, make sure that you select, or mutually agree to a place that will help the date flourishes but keep the other person wanting more. Obviously, you should select a meeting place that is well lit and where there will be many eyes watching you for increased safety. However, the place that you will spend the most time should be softly lit so that most of the concentration can be focused on the content of the conversation and less on physical characteristics. More importantly, span the first date no more than that of a small snack. You can consider this a “weed-out” session. If there is chemistry during the date, he or she will leave waiting more. Conversely, if there is no chemistry, not much time was lost and not much money was spent.

Remember, these important ideas to engender ease and confidence during the initial contact through online dating services. Choose a method of communication prior to the meeting that will help you determine the persons forthrightness. Understand that the other person is probably feeling the same level of anxiety to which you can offer the comfort. Finally, choose a place that demonstrates safety and allows for a short but memorable experience.

Online Dating: How to Overcome the Stress and Nerves with the First Date / Patrick Hood-daniel

Patrick Hood-Daniel is an Urban Designer/Architect that pays special attention to our social atmosphere in relation to our physical environment. He is also the developer of http://www.datinganddating.com an online dating service where members can find dates in a totally unique way.

Today more and more people are finding it hard to find a mate through the traditional methods. At one point Christian dating consisted of people going to bars and other social gatherings to meet people. They also met through friends. However, over time things have changed. With the increased use of the internet people have found a different way of dating. Christian dating today consists of people sitting in front of computer, typing in a name and meeting both men and women online who they have a relationship with.

There are those who think that this form of Christian dating is wrong and people should get away from the computer and get out a meet people. However there are others who think, what better way to meet hundreds of people at the same time then by entering a chat room and talking to everyone at the same time. People have found future spouses and mates on the internet.

There are Christian dating services that will help you to find your soul mate. These companies will contact you and interview you to find out about you as a person. They will record all information and enter it into a data base. The company will then try to find a person who matches what you want and who has similar interests as you. The company will then contact both parties and will arrange a date. This is kind of like a blind date as in most cases you don’t know your date until you meet them on the day of the arranged date.

Christian dating also consists of people going on reality televisions shows to find to find their mate. This form of dating is becoming more and more popular all the time. In this form Christian dating is a little different, instead of dating one person at a time, people are dating multiple persons in an attempt to find the one that is perfect for them. Over the course of a specific period of time, people get eliminated until the perfect couple is found.

Christian Dating Right or Wrong / James Hunt

James Hunt has spent 15 years as a professional writer and researcher covering stories that cover a whole spectrum of interest. Read more at www.best-for-christian-dating.info

Check out if you are using online services properly. Using online personals does not seem to be a daunting task. This is why most people don’t get any results out of it – everything seems to be so simple, just post a profile and start dating!

1. GIVING IT A TRY Be more positive, don’t just run it up the flag pole and see if anyone salutes it. There is someone waiting out there for you, and hoping to find them is too negative an attitude. Maximize your chances now.

2. IT IS NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO FIND SOMEONE, THEY WILL HAVE TO FIND ME Contact others first, even if it means you have to pay for a premium membership. Most people will respond to someone showing an interest. On a large site with a huge data base who is going to find you.

3. NEVER SEND OUT THE SAME LETTERS TO MORE THAN ONE PERSON This is not only lazy but rude. How do you expect anyone to show an interest in you, when their is nothing personal in the communication. There can’t be because you are sending them to more than one person. Take the time and make the effort and write individually to each person you are really interested in .

4. PUT SOME EFFORT INTO YOUR PROFILE Write a letter that has something to make someone else interested in you. Don’t just say “Hi, how about reading my profile” How captivating is that, you have shown less than an interest, you are asking for your communication to be deleted – Make the effort.

5. DO YOU FOLLOW UP YOUR LETTERS If you have not recieved an answer then get on to that person again and ask them if they have received your letter. However, check that they can reply to you before sending a letter. Ask the recipient of your communication to have the courtesy of a reply, even if they are not interested. Explain that this stops you writing letters to loads of people and you will not be able to reply to some.

6. WHEN CONTACTING SOMEONE BE INTERESTING Tell them more than how you think and who they are. Flatter them – tell them what was so interesting in their profile, even if it’s just plain looks. The other person can always read your profile, tell them something interesting and different & pique there interest levels. Be the right guy for HER. If you do not fit her requirements 100%, tell her why it won’t be a problem. You pride yourself as having a great sense of humor? Back up your claim – make her laugh! From the first line, your letter should grab her attention and she should not be able to stop reading until the end. BOTTOM LINE: Write interesting letters – the type of letters you would like to receive.

7. LIMIT YOUR CONTACTS. Your are looking for someone special. If you contact too many people, you may be deluged with responses. Make sure that you can follow through.

8. GIVING UP “It just doesn’t work for me”. Compare profiles and find out why it is not working for you.

How To Avoid Common Pitfalls In Online Dating / Roy Barker

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